I feel stuck in my parenting role of my daughter who is going to be 18 and an adult on Wednesday. Kaia has been struggling with an eating disorder since last November. She was in the hospital for the month of April and was in a day program for the month of May. She continued counseling through June, and since then has slowly started dropping weight again. I do see her eating, and we do have a "weigh in" day every week. However, I dread this day and want to be able to trust that even though she has lost some weight again, she tells me she does not have a problem.
I am trying to be a responsible parent but also don't want to cross the line of making eating and weighing more of a battle between us that it needs to be. Currently, she has maintained a weight for the last 2 weeks. We have an agreement that if she drops more, we will need to set up an appointment with the counselor again, but she really doesn't want to go through any more counseling. She truly feels she has her situation under control. Why is it so hard for me to let her be and trust she does truly have this under control?
I am trying to be a responsible parent but also don't want to cross the line of making eating and weighing more of a battle between us that it needs to be. Currently, she has maintained a weight for the last 2 weeks. We have an agreement that if she drops more, we will need to set up an appointment with the counselor again, but she really doesn't want to go through any more counseling. She truly feels she has her situation under control. Why is it so hard for me to let her be and trust she does truly have this under control?